We drove up to Hawkes Bay to attend the Memorial Service for my elder sister Kathleen, who passed away last August when Covid rules made numbers attending funerals severely restricted. Her family decided to wait a while and hold her memorial later when more people could attend.
The two of us were born 15 months apart, so we spent a lot of time together, particularly in those early years. When I was making notes of what I wanted to say at the service, I realised that I would be the only one present who had known her as a young child. (Our elder brother lives in Australia, and younger sister Karla was born when I was 11 years old). What to talk about? My first memory at three years old when we came in a big truck on a wet stormy day to arrive at our new home, unfurnished and bare floors, and the pair of us happily running around the empty house looking for our new bedroom. Then the fun times we shared, going to the Saturday afternoon picture (movies) together, and going roller skating on our brand new strap over the shoes skates. How I longed for a pair of those white boots with skates attached, but to tell the truth I was not much good at all at skating so they would have been wasted on me. Kathleen however, was so much better at skating than I was. I completed my memories with a quote I had found which said: “Sisters are different flowers from the same garden”, so true.
Remembering happy times together
At the conclusion of the service we all shared a nice lunch, and chatted to the other guests. I was amazed at several ladies who said my voice sounds so much like Kathleen’s did, I wasn’t aware of that. And her grandson Adam asked if he could have a hug as I look so much like his Nana. We certainly didn't look alike in younger years, but seemed to as we both got older.
The service was held in a theatre, which, as I found out, Kathleen used to sew costumes for in earlier years. There was a pair of rather posh chairs against the wall, obviously props, and they looked just like a pair of thrones. So we tried them out for size, trying to look suitably regal.
King and Queen of nowhere
Kathleen’s family and husband wanted to spend the rest of the day together, so we will catch up with them again before we go back home. It was a typically hot Hawkes bay summer’s day, so there was nothing for it, we had to visit Silky Oak Chocolates and indulge in an Iced Chocolate each. Don’t worry about the calories, we decided, just enjoy the day!
Iced Chocolate at Silky Oak Café
Gemma is doing her impression of a ‘chilled out” caravan cat. Who knows what she may see while looking out the window? Birds perhaps, maybe a dog or two, hopefully an a lead as they should be at camps.
Plenty to see out this window